Memories and grief have their own time lines, today is my beloved son's birthday, who died tragically in 1998, but maybe all deaths are tragic to those who love them. When my cherished mother died over two years ago I started another blog series called Living Well while Dying. I came across this video about what really matters at the end of life, to rethink and redesign how we die, to bring proportionality, a kind of cosmic right sizing. How we die is something we can affect, and this conversation makes important distinctions between unnecesary and necessary suffering and loss versus regreat. Since we are facing a silver tsunami, we need an infrastructure dynamic to respond to the demographic changes that will be happening in the next decade. We must transform from a disease centred to a generative centred health system.